Personal @ 08 Aug 2006 03:55 am by ayoi
I’m not talking about vulnerabilities in IT, but this time in human life. My sis did express her thoughts on being alone (w/o bf la) for quite some time. Sometimes I do think that she feels inferior due to her looks (and I dunno why but hey most women feel that they are not beautiful enuff-same goes to wifey as well). Inferior will leads to low self esteem which in turn can make a person to lost in self confidence.
When I was young (my sis now only 24 y.o), around her age, the 1st factor that I look in women is physical beauty. (normal maa). Why? Just want to impress my colleagues. Love to make them “waaaaa how the hell you date that hot gurl aaa?” But as time goes by, when I’m getting older, this factor is not the main priority anymore. I’ve started to look into other things, have my own criteria for my future wife(at that time), and start to think about the responsibilities of having a wife and building a family. Jeez if u ask most of the men what kind of wife that they want, most of them will answer “yang baik, bersopan santun, hormat org tua etc” maybe few will answer “yang cantik” only. Cantik or beauty itself will never promise anything besides something nice to look upon.What is the point of having a beautiful wife but without manners, respect, understanding, tolerance etc?
I know that in life we shud never be satisfied of what we have. We have to strive for more. In my life or specifically in my family life, there’s no more that I can ask for. Not only satisfied but grateful for having an understanding, tolerate, best friend, soul mate, lovely wife (no words can sums the good things abt wifey), blessed with 2 wonderful daughters. It is impossible for me to love other women besided my wife. Well I am proud to say that she’s the other part of me.
So to my sis wawa, you dun have to worry my dear. Take ur own time, dun rush things coz u really deserve a good man to be your partner and not with some loosers. Just remember physical beauty fades with time, just figure out which will last for ur lifetime?
Like whut I told my wife before we getting married, “Somewhere, someone is loving you. You just didn’t meet him yet”
